Why I haven't yet added you on Facebook

It's not that I don't want to add you, it's just that, especially if I haven't seen or talked to you since high school, I'm really kind of daunted by the prospect of writing my whole life story for the last 20 years. How did I end up in southwest Missouri? What have I been doing with my life? How did I meet your wife? What kind of job do I have? Why am I in college now when the rest of you wrapped it up in 1994?

Hey, I think Facebook is a great way to connect with old friends, especially now that I am married and nobody will think that I'm so desperate to find a date that I'll mine my personal history to find anyone—I mean, hello, isn't that what 95% of Classmates.com users are doing?—even though I never needed to do that myself. I have been able to reconnect with people I had almost completely forgotten about, as well as those whom with I shared a season of friendship at one time. And I am behind on recapping my last few years with a couple of old friends, one of whom I just gave this blog's URL as a temporary update. I will write to you soon.

But there are still quite a few faces I've seen for whom I haven't yet clicked the Add Friend button. And I will someday, perhaps. maybe what I'll do is write a kind of standardized history of me, a few paragraphs that I can tweak depending on how long it's been since I've seen you. When I do that, I'll start clicking again.